An interview with Ynes Speciale
“Moving countries teaches you that knowledge and connection are essential, You can’t build your life around just one person or one job.”
My name is Ynes. I was born in San Jose, California in 1988 and grew up mostly in Phoenix, Arizona, moving between the two states throughout my childhood. At the age of eighteen I moved back to California to study, though that phase didn’t last long. At twenty I married a Belgian man and moved to Belgium, which was my first step into European life. After my divorce I spent several years as a single mother, building my life from scratch again. Through work I eventually met my current partner, a Dutchman, and that brought me to the Netherlands. Altogether, I’ve been living in Europe for about seventeen and a half years.
What brought you to this region, and what surprised you when moving?
My move to Zuid-Limburg was shaped by life circumstances — my child, my partner, and the need to rebuild a stable life. After living in several towns in Belgium, relocating across the border made sense for work and family.
What I didn’t expect was having to restart my entire immigration process from zero. Even though Belgium and the Netherlands are neighbours, absolutely nothing carries over. I had just had a baby, moved countries, and suddenly needed new registrations, new documents, and a full integration track again. It took two years to fix everything. Even my daughter, who lived and studied here, wasn’t registered in the Dutch system. I discovered this only when applying for her ID.
How do you experience Dutch culture? Both the positive and the challenging sides?
Dutch people are open, approachable, and quick to help. They notice when someone needs assistance and simply step in — something that reminded me of the U.S. Socially, people are curious and easy to talk to.
At the same time, Dutch social culture can be overwhelming. People expect you to join activities, participate, open your home, say yes. Declining is sometimes misunderstood. Coming from a more reserved background, the directness and social openness took time getting used to.
What was the hardest part of integrating?
In Belgium, the language barrier made life isolating. I didn’t understand conversations, jokes, or basic practical information, and my personal situation back then kept me even more isolated. Learning Dutch and becoming more proactive helped me rebuild. Working in shops and restaurants forced daily interaction, which accelerated my integration more than anything else.
How important is community support, and what role does the Buddy System play for you?
After restarting my life so many times, I realised how essential community truly is. Meeting another American once made me understand how much I missed cultural nuance. Shared humour, references, background. Without family here, you need to build a kind of pseudo-family. That’s why organisations like the Buddy System matter. Events naturally create connection and give people a reason to leave the house. Carnival, Oktoberfest, and the family picnic were highlights for me. These gatherings make local culture more accessible and less intimidating. Even though I understand Dutch and Limburg humour, experiencing traditions with other internationals makes everything lighter and more enjoyable.
Do you find the WhatsApp community useful, and what practical help do newcomers need most?
I haven’t asked my own questions yet, but I absolutely would. People in the group discuss everything from electricians, free trees, Chinese food at 11 AM. It’s a practical lifeline. Small problems can grow quickly when you don’t understand the system — fines, healthcare, insurance, taxes. Information sessions about the Dutch healthcare system would help many newcomers. The monthly premiums surprise people, especially those coming from Belgium. Understanding social services and support options is essential too.
How did you find the Buddy System, and what was your first impression?
I searched online for “expat community” and discovered InterNations, which didn’t resonate with me. I eventually found the Buddy System through Facebook. My first event was a social meet-up at Vicini on February 7. I expected awkwardness or a tiny group, but the atmosphere was welcoming. Coincidentally, a colleague I knew was there, which made it even easier. Without this community, most of my evenings would just be work and parenting.
How would you describe Zuid-Limburg, and which events should internationals explore?
The region feels suburban and family-oriented, full of parks, festivals, and kid-friendly activities. Its location is amazing, with Belgium and Germany minutes away, daily life naturally mixes three cultures. You can spontaneously decide to shop in Germany or have dinner in Belgium. Mama’s Pride is a perfect event for internationals. Free, relaxed, family-friendly, and culturally rich. I went even before moving to the Netherlands.
What advice would you give to newcomers or your younger self?
Do not isolate yourself. Do not build your whole life around one person or one job. Keep things balanced. The grass isn’t always greener. Every country has its challenges. Knowledge, community, and connection are essential. Push yourself to meet people, even when it feels hard. It makes all the difference.
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